| Jan. 28th, 2008 @ 09:31 pm Updates |
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Quiet. Yes. It's been so.
Been overly exhausted yesterday and mostly keeping to LJ or silence when not getting work things done on public faceless blogs.
There is good news and awkward news and hopeful news.
The good news is that the divorce (on behalf of our mother and the evil step-father) is finalized and through the courts, so we are no longer bound to him in much way at all. There is the factor of the legal adoption, but just let him try to lay claim, by proxy, to our child whom he conveniently considers his grand child when it suits him to show off and is generally a dick towards. Just. Let. Him.
In awkward news that's just the general blargh. The crappy experience with medication that was prescribed. The triggery crappy situations that have been going on. The nightmares that flux between bloody, suicidal dreams and assault which happened when we were a juvenile, from a friend of an equal age, no less. She was probably acting out some trauma which had happened to her, but that act is the ground. The foundation for our whole mental situation as it is now, and the first in a random line of things which happened over many years at various points in time.
The hopeful news is that an appointment has been made for the morning to speak again with the PCP and get things sorted out. Coming out with anything other than the promise of a referral for therapy is unacceptable. It has been decided so.
There are other random neat things such as licenses for business have been acquired, a Rubik's cube was purchased, we've found a place to get curtains for cheap. The cute neighbor kids came over and volunteered to walk the munchkin seeing as we didn't have a dog for them to walk. We didn't let them, but it was cute. We said we'd keep them in mind if we get the police dog and it's allowed for him or her to be around others, and if not we may get a second non-police dog that's munchkin size and they could help show him what's what. It made them feel good.
We went to the ZOO on Friday.
But we'll be continuing on. It's slow progress. It's going to be slow progress, but we have other people who have "been there, done that" here and in other places that we have found. Seeing as during a moment of "trying to sort things out" we came fully 'out' to the parenting board that we know. In the secure portion which only a percentage of the members have but it brought to us another Mom who has been through pluralism and come out the other side, and while she integrated she said in her message to us that she is not pushing that she knows that it might not work for us, but she has been there, and if we wanted to have virtual coffee and chat, and bitch and get other experiences she would be there and would be happy to talk to any one or all of us if we wanted, and that was nice, because as it is most of the plural and multiple communities that we've joined they're okay, but they kinda suck because there's the drama-whores and the attention-whores and also the fact that 90% of the people in them tend to SQUICK-RUN when they found out there's a child of this system and that we're seeking therapy, only before they SQUICK-RUN they comment that "OMFG DON'T you'll be declared an UNFIT PARENT!!!" which is EXACTLY the sort of thing we DO.NOT.NEED to hear, because that is the deep-seated fear that enough of us have and it sends Ami and the Core in particular into complete and utter terror-panic and guilt issues and just...NO.
Anyway, that's what's been going on, and what is going on with the brief aside of a bunch more Jared-Redux history being discovered yesterday and that a bunch more stuff about Sol WILL be discovered because he's been turned into an epic-level D&D dragon for a game that's being run and that's just all kinds of nifty fun. |
